Information is provided about eating disorders, particularly of adults, to parents and other loved ones written by a parent who is in recovery from an eating disorder.
Welcome
When I created this blog, I was "getting on" in my early sixties, hence the blog name. However, my adult daughter's eating disorder and co-occurring emotional dysregulation disorder and other co-morbidities - ongoing for about 33 years - became and was our focus as we attempted to help her get into recovery. By learning about, reflecting on, reading about, attending conferences and writing about eating and brain disorders, I created a place to blog what I've learned. I hope this blog will be of use to others, especially families of and adult sufferers themselves to help them get into recovery. I update posts from time and the update date will be present at the top of the post.
Sadly, my daughter passed away in early October 2021 mainly because her body became so malnourished that she was immunocompromised, contracted a severe infection that was not properly addressed during an earlier hospital stay the month before, and developed an overwhelming non-covid pneumonia following surgery to save her life. I believe she should have been able to receive palliative care but Arizona, our country, and even the professionals trained in the treatment of eating disorders, particularly anorexia, are not "there" yet. I address the issue of palliative care in a recent post below, initially written in November 2021. I am not a certified eating disorder specialist. I am an Expert by Experience and college-educated with a BA in Community Work with an additional certificate in a one-year program in Business Administration from the same institution.
I am passionate about all of this because, as Shakespeare wrote in The Taming of the Shrew, Act 4, Scene 3: "My tongue will tell the anger [and sadness] of my heart or else my heart, concealing it, will break. And, rather than it shall, I will be free even to the uttermost, as I please in words."[2016]
Travel Guide
If you're new to my blog, I recommend you begin on the right side and take a look at the "Of Note" offerings. Read Dr. Cynthia Bulik's recent published interview (5/4/22) "Rethinking Eating Disorders" if you want to print an easy-to-understand professional's expert opinion about anorexia for your family doctor or the therapist. [Early intervention is absolutely critical. For those whose eating disorder is categorized as entrenched or severe and enduring, read the editorial comment by Stephen Touyz and Philipa Hay for a new approach about treatment. It is possible for your loved one to recover! I have also attached a link here for additional papers on the subject of severe and entrenched eating disorders. If you are a family member or friend of an adult with an eating disorder and have been at this for awhile, I refer you to the posts within the title "Adult Eating Disorders and Recovery Tools" found in the Index on the right hand side of this site. As well, in the "Of Note" section take a look at those posts with an asterisk. If you're a parent and need support, look for posts in the Index about parent support or parent toolbox.
In my opinion, the best book to buy, to refer to constantly and to share with members of the medical/psychiatric profession is "Sick Enough: A Guide to the Medical Complications of Eating Disorders" by Jennifer L. Gaudiani MD, CEDS, FAED. "Dr. Gaudiani aims to improve medical diagnosis and treatment, motivate recovery, and validate the lived experiences of individuals of all body shapes and sizes, while firmly rejecting dieting culture."
I recommend two groups who will support you on your journey - F.E.A.S.T and the National Alliance for Eating Disorders. Both maintain websites and Facebook private groups.
Thursday, April 4, 2013
Wednesday, March 6, 2013
The Four (or more?) Kingdoms of ED
Dr. Thomas Insel of the NIMH recently wrote this thoughtful piece about "The Four Kingdoms of Autism."
Over time I have become aware that there are similar kingdoms within the communities of Eating Disorders. Within the last six months I've noticed programs for upcoming conferences the titles of presentations of which seem to be out of date and I question the insurance industry's insistence about paying for only a short period of in-patient treatment. [I think each person is unique and should not be lumped into a category of x number of days of treatment for anorexia or bulimia etc.]
I recall the NEDA conference I attended in New York in which the opening speaker, Dr. Russell Marx stated, ""The current advocacy efforts in the United States occur in an almost complete vacuum of data about the health services utilization of individuals who experience an eating disorder."
I'd love to see a similar thoughtful piece about the Kingdoms of Eating Disorders......
Over time I have become aware that there are similar kingdoms within the communities of Eating Disorders. Within the last six months I've noticed programs for upcoming conferences the titles of presentations of which seem to be out of date and I question the insurance industry's insistence about paying for only a short period of in-patient treatment. [I think each person is unique and should not be lumped into a category of x number of days of treatment for anorexia or bulimia etc.]
I recall the NEDA conference I attended in New York in which the opening speaker, Dr. Russell Marx stated, ""The current advocacy efforts in the United States occur in an almost complete vacuum of data about the health services utilization of individuals who experience an eating disorder."
I'd love to see a similar thoughtful piece about the Kingdoms of Eating Disorders......
Sunday, February 24, 2013
Updates and Thoughts re Eating Disorders that have become entrenched
Recently, I've posted three comments in other places that I've decided to draw together here. This post will be somewhat disjointed as a result and I will probably return to edit it. In the meantime, this also serves as an update of sorts and as another thank you to a woman -- Laura Collins -- who has made an enormous difference in the world of treatment for those with eating disorders. It occurs to me, as with other social movements,
that change comes from the bottom up. People like Laura Collins of
F.E.A.S.T. and others connected with the organization she has founded
(many, many parents and people currently on the -- at times -- tenuous road
to recovery) are gaining a strong toe-hold and getting the attention of
those who need to listen, many of them psychiatrists and therapists and treatment facilities who/which
aren't keeping up with developments in the understanding of the brain and behavior and the influence of environment, and should be.
The recent news out of Great Britain of a teenager who recently died because she was released from a eating disorder treatment facility by people who decided that because she was an "adult" she could move on to take care of herself motivated me to return to post here. Those people forgot that first, her brain was poorly nourished and therefore not functioning well, and that two, her prefrontal cortext -- the seat of where decision making is made -- was not (as with most teens is not) fully matured and probably would not be until her mid-twenties or because she had starved her brain, later than that.
An update of sorts is in order, because I have not posted here for quite some time.
First, for those with adult children with an ED that has become entrenched and who has a co-morbidity for example a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder and there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel may I suggest that you
(1) never give up hope;
(2) believe that their true self is still in there, buried under the eating disorder's take over of their mind and it is, believe me, a take over;
(3) search for any means possible to force/persuade the person into treatment at a facility where your loved one will be safe for at least six months (twelve months would be better) - not only from herself or himself but also from all the many outside influences that may take him/her off track;
[At this point of my list, I do suggest that you read Wasted by Marya Hornbacher. She was in such a treatment facility. Continuing to help someone with a long-term eating disorder is absolutely critical. You are dealing with, I am sure you know, a deadly illness.
(4) with an attorney if necessary, work with the medical/psychiatric staff at the facility to implement Sarah Ravin's excellent step program and be sure to follow the treatment. The first order of business is nutrition, nutrition, nutrition to bring your adult child's brain back to functioning order. Here is a link to what I am talking about:
http://www.blog.drsarahravin.com/eating-disorders/active-ingredients/
and then read this, too, also by Dr. Sarah Ravin:
http://www.blog.drsarahravin.com/eating-disorders/navigating-phase-ii/
This schedule is geared for someone whose ED is not as entrenched but it still highlights the time that is needed to overcome the ingrained behaviors.
(5) Even if nothing else but restoration of weight and stabilization of electrolytes and of your adult child's brain occurs in that twelve months or so, your loved one will have been given an opportunity to heal in ways that seem invisible but that are critical for recovery. A nourished and somewhat stable brain is the first step.
(6) If at all possible eliminate all diet soda esp that with aspartame as recent research has indicated diet soda seems to exacerbate depression.
(7) If at all possible eliminate or cut way back on anything with caffeine so that the person's sleep patterns and sleep itself are not interrupted.
(8) Again, looking at Sarah Ravin's schedule, know and understand that recovery is fragile and tenuous every step of the way for those first six months or so. Remember that a set-back is not the end of the world.
(9) A step-down facility may be (probably will be) necessary following this treatment in a locked facility.
(10) If you can, put together a team of people who "get" eating disorders and who "get" the person they are working with. An ideal team includes:
team leader who is herself/himself an experienced therapist
case manager
therapist for the co-morbidity
therapist for trauma work (if relevant)
nutritionist/registered dietician with ED education
occupational therapist
medical doctor
psychiatrist also trained in ED
http://desertdwellergettingon.blogspot.com/2010/11/team-approach-how-to-keep-recovery.html
An important component of this plan, as noted in the above link, is they all must have clearances to speak with each other and with the person (parent, spouse, etc.) who knows your son or daughter.
(11) if Borderline Personality Disorder was diagnosed (or emotional dysregulation disorder), get the very best therapist you can skilled in dialectical behavioral therapy who is at once kind but also hard as nails and who doesn't hesitate to seek their own therapist to help them because BPD is very difficult but not impossible to treat.
(12) remember that recovery is a long process rather than a one or two month treatment program. Most therapists recognize that recovery can and probably will take 5-7 years.
Progress...... one very small step at a time.
Always remember the saying, progress not perfection.
Also remember, eating disorders are brain disorders - an illness of the brain. If your loved one had tuberculosis (and the entire world is mobilizing for this disease probably because people suddenly realize it's becoming a real threat again, but just the same it is an illness) or cancer or MS or Parkinson's, real medical insurance companies would cover the treatment. There must be parity when it comes to eating disorders. Contact your national and state legislators. Demand parity. NAMI and NEDA are very active in this work. Our loved ones must be given a chance to heal just as someone with any physical disease must be given a chance. If treatment takes a long time or if it is chronic, then it must be covered and paid for. It must be.
To close, I woke up this morning and remembered something one of my family member's therapists told me a few years ago having to do with ED treatment:
There was a time, in California, when there was a program connected with a major university, the organizers of which believed a year of treatment was necessary for someone to overcome an eating disorder (as a first step). The program was funded by a government grant, as I recall.
So little. So soon. Too soon for the rest of the psychiatric world to learn about and identify with before the program was discontinued, unfortunately.
It's time to turn all of that around and return to the concept of long-term treatment, either in the home with paid leave covered by insurance to do this using formats such as that developed by therapist Dr. Sarah Ravin or in a formal treatment center that remains humanely connected with the family and that uses a very long term step-down program geared to the healing of the patient and not to some prescribed "everyone does it this way" kind of treatment.
I really do not know - I am not prescient - what the outcome will be for my family member but I do believe that it's important to share here what is being attempted on this person's behalf because little attention is being paid to those adults with entrenched ED's who could not benefit back then from what is known and is beginning to be practiced now.
The recent news out of Great Britain of a teenager who recently died because she was released from a eating disorder treatment facility by people who decided that because she was an "adult" she could move on to take care of herself motivated me to return to post here. Those people forgot that first, her brain was poorly nourished and therefore not functioning well, and that two, her prefrontal cortext -- the seat of where decision making is made -- was not (as with most teens is not) fully matured and probably would not be until her mid-twenties or because she had starved her brain, later than that.
An update of sorts is in order, because I have not posted here for quite some time.
First, for those with adult children with an ED that has become entrenched and who has a co-morbidity for example a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder and there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel may I suggest that you
(1) never give up hope;
(2) believe that their true self is still in there, buried under the eating disorder's take over of their mind and it is, believe me, a take over;
(3) search for any means possible to force/persuade the person into treatment at a facility where your loved one will be safe for at least six months (twelve months would be better) - not only from herself or himself but also from all the many outside influences that may take him/her off track;
[At this point of my list, I do suggest that you read Wasted by Marya Hornbacher. She was in such a treatment facility. Continuing to help someone with a long-term eating disorder is absolutely critical. You are dealing with, I am sure you know, a deadly illness.
(4) with an attorney if necessary, work with the medical/psychiatric staff at the facility to implement Sarah Ravin's excellent step program and be sure to follow the treatment. The first order of business is nutrition, nutrition, nutrition to bring your adult child's brain back to functioning order. Here is a link to what I am talking about:
http://www.blog.drsarahravin.com/eating-disorders/active-ingredients/
and then read this, too, also by Dr. Sarah Ravin:
http://www.blog.drsarahravin.com/eating-disorders/navigating-phase-ii/
This schedule is geared for someone whose ED is not as entrenched but it still highlights the time that is needed to overcome the ingrained behaviors.
(5) Even if nothing else but restoration of weight and stabilization of electrolytes and of your adult child's brain occurs in that twelve months or so, your loved one will have been given an opportunity to heal in ways that seem invisible but that are critical for recovery. A nourished and somewhat stable brain is the first step.
(6) If at all possible eliminate all diet soda esp that with aspartame as recent research has indicated diet soda seems to exacerbate depression.
(7) If at all possible eliminate or cut way back on anything with caffeine so that the person's sleep patterns and sleep itself are not interrupted.
(8) Again, looking at Sarah Ravin's schedule, know and understand that recovery is fragile and tenuous every step of the way for those first six months or so. Remember that a set-back is not the end of the world.
(9) A step-down facility may be (probably will be) necessary following this treatment in a locked facility.
(10) If you can, put together a team of people who "get" eating disorders and who "get" the person they are working with. An ideal team includes:
team leader who is herself/himself an experienced therapist
case manager
therapist for the co-morbidity
therapist for trauma work (if relevant)
nutritionist/registered dietician with ED education
occupational therapist
medical doctor
psychiatrist also trained in ED
http://desertdwellergettingon.blogspot.com/2010/11/team-approach-how-to-keep-recovery.html
An important component of this plan, as noted in the above link, is they all must have clearances to speak with each other and with the person (parent, spouse, etc.) who knows your son or daughter.
(11) if Borderline Personality Disorder was diagnosed (or emotional dysregulation disorder), get the very best therapist you can skilled in dialectical behavioral therapy who is at once kind but also hard as nails and who doesn't hesitate to seek their own therapist to help them because BPD is very difficult but not impossible to treat.
(12) remember that recovery is a long process rather than a one or two month treatment program. Most therapists recognize that recovery can and probably will take 5-7 years.
Progress...... one very small step at a time.
Always remember the saying, progress not perfection.
Also remember, eating disorders are brain disorders - an illness of the brain. If your loved one had tuberculosis (and the entire world is mobilizing for this disease probably because people suddenly realize it's becoming a real threat again, but just the same it is an illness) or cancer or MS or Parkinson's, real medical insurance companies would cover the treatment. There must be parity when it comes to eating disorders. Contact your national and state legislators. Demand parity. NAMI and NEDA are very active in this work. Our loved ones must be given a chance to heal just as someone with any physical disease must be given a chance. If treatment takes a long time or if it is chronic, then it must be covered and paid for. It must be.
To close, I woke up this morning and remembered something one of my family member's therapists told me a few years ago having to do with ED treatment:
There was a time, in California, when there was a program connected with a major university, the organizers of which believed a year of treatment was necessary for someone to overcome an eating disorder (as a first step). The program was funded by a government grant, as I recall.
So little. So soon. Too soon for the rest of the psychiatric world to learn about and identify with before the program was discontinued, unfortunately.
It's time to turn all of that around and return to the concept of long-term treatment, either in the home with paid leave covered by insurance to do this using formats such as that developed by therapist Dr. Sarah Ravin or in a formal treatment center that remains humanely connected with the family and that uses a very long term step-down program geared to the healing of the patient and not to some prescribed "everyone does it this way" kind of treatment.
I really do not know - I am not prescient - what the outcome will be for my family member but I do believe that it's important to share here what is being attempted on this person's behalf because little attention is being paid to those adults with entrenched ED's who could not benefit back then from what is known and is beginning to be practiced now.
Monday, February 4, 2013
A link between diet soda and depression
The United States Department of Agriculture announced on Friday a proposal for "new standards to provide healthy food options in schools."
Note that this is a proposal and there is a call for the public's input, and a web address is provided in the news release. So, the announcement does not necessarily mean a fait accomplit although the soft drink lobby is quite powerful.
Among the proposals is the availability of diet sodas for high school students and the choice of one diet soda each day for lunch.
At the same time, neuroscientists and presumably some members of the public are aware that an NIH study released in January reported a link between diet soda and depression! Among the media reporting this was US News and World Report.
Earlier on my blog I wrote about the potential dangers of aspartame, an artificial sweetener found in many versions of diet soda. I was surprised to find that the Mayo Clinic has actually addressed the question that I raised about phenylalanine.
Here's a Mayo Clinic response to the question of phenylalanine,a substance found in diet soda. Short answer - it can be harmful.
Today (March 14, 2013) another article that appears in the Huffington Post, this one by Dr. Joseph Mercola titled Aspartame Pathway reports on the toxicity of another substance that appears when aspartame is broken down by the human body - methanol. From the article: "Methanol acts as a Trojan horse: It's carried into susceptible tissues in your body, like your brain and bone marrow, where the alcohol dehydrogenase (ADH) enzyme converts it into formaldehyde, which wreaks havoc with sensitive proteins and DNA."
I hope more parents and the general public will become more aware of research that is uncovering links between aspartame and brain circuit disorders. Perhaps in the meantime, if one wants a coca-cola, one might want to lobby their Costco or whatever to bring coca-cola that is bottled in Mexico (with cane sugar) to their locale. Perhaps other soda manufacturers might want to return to real sugar, as well.
Yes, real sugar as well as sodas can be harmful, too, taken in excess. In fact, studies have shown that some people became addicted to sugar when it first became widely available in our country in the 1800's.
Moderation is the key in all things.
Note that this is a proposal and there is a call for the public's input, and a web address is provided in the news release. So, the announcement does not necessarily mean a fait accomplit although the soft drink lobby is quite powerful.
Among the proposals is the availability of diet sodas for high school students and the choice of one diet soda each day for lunch.
At the same time, neuroscientists and presumably some members of the public are aware that an NIH study released in January reported a link between diet soda and depression! Among the media reporting this was US News and World Report.
Earlier on my blog I wrote about the potential dangers of aspartame, an artificial sweetener found in many versions of diet soda. I was surprised to find that the Mayo Clinic has actually addressed the question that I raised about phenylalanine.
Here's a Mayo Clinic response to the question of phenylalanine,a substance found in diet soda. Short answer - it can be harmful.
Today (March 14, 2013) another article that appears in the Huffington Post, this one by Dr. Joseph Mercola titled Aspartame Pathway reports on the toxicity of another substance that appears when aspartame is broken down by the human body - methanol. From the article: "Methanol acts as a Trojan horse: It's carried into susceptible tissues in your body, like your brain and bone marrow, where the alcohol dehydrogenase (ADH) enzyme converts it into formaldehyde, which wreaks havoc with sensitive proteins and DNA."
I hope more parents and the general public will become more aware of research that is uncovering links between aspartame and brain circuit disorders. Perhaps in the meantime, if one wants a coca-cola, one might want to lobby their Costco or whatever to bring coca-cola that is bottled in Mexico (with cane sugar) to their locale. Perhaps other soda manufacturers might want to return to real sugar, as well.
Yes, real sugar as well as sodas can be harmful, too, taken in excess. In fact, studies have shown that some people became addicted to sugar when it first became widely available in our country in the 1800's.
Moderation is the key in all things.
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