Eating Disorders - Pulling Knowledge Together - Carrie Arnold, Kathryn Hansen and Marya Hornbacher

Several people who’ve been in recovery for quite some time have thought and written about eating disorders (and co-morbidities), including me (here in my blog), from a variety of perspectives and have taken the time to consider and then share what we’ve learned that apparently made a difference.  

For the purposes of this post,  I’m specifically thinking of Carrie Arnold, Kathryn Hansen, and Marya Hornbacher. 

Kathryn Hansen, Carrie Arnold and now Marya Hornbacher with her work in progress have taken/are taking this discussion to the next level.  I know there are many others who have written memoirs on this subject; yet I am focusing on these women because their work is taking our knowledge of eating disorders to the next phase of understanding what's going on in our brains and possibly why; how we think and why.  They are/will be sharing their knowledge in an easy, conversational style to help those of us who are not scientists understand scientific concepts and developments.

Their work is important because until as recently as 2010, prominent people in the field of eating disorders were lamenting that new knowledge about eating disorders could take years and years to reach the eyes and ears of those who can help make a difference, particularly in residential treatment centers, in doctors' and therapists' offices and in homes where parents and other family members are employing the latest thinking and techniques to help their family members get going on recovery.  

The electronic media is serving to speed up this process.

Few are familiar with Kathryn Hansen’s book Brain Over Binge, Camellia Publishing, 2011, possibly because of the concept of the “tipping point" made so popular by Malcolm Gladwell in his book,  The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference first published by Little Brown in 2000.   Since she has now developed a workbook to accompany the book, perhaps her ideas are catching on.   Kathryn's work preceded much of the literature about the brain and eating disorders, some of which I learned in a course I took here at the University of Arizona and wrote about here on my blog.  Kathryn published her book in 2011.  Since then information has started to tumble forth and people, who are coming to understand better, are paying attention and advocating for change through legislation.  After I read her book, I wrote something of a review incorporating additional information and examined what she wrote here.   From the book cover, I pull the following:

After six years of chronic binging and purging, Kathryn Hansen stopped her eating disorder independently and abruptly, using one tool and one tool only:  the power of her own brain.  In Brain over Binge, Kathryn traces the course of her condition and describes in detail her unconventional approach to recovery.  In the process, she offers a much-needed alternative perspective to the canvas of eating disorder literature to help others struggling with any form of binge eating.

The mainstream view of bulimia holds that is is a disease that manifests as a means of coping with deep underlying emotional problems.  But the author persuasively argues that in her case, this philosophy actually encouraged more binge eating.  For her, it really was about the food.  Kathryn's candid account cuts through the confusion she experienced in traditional therapy and simplifies both the origins of bulimia and its cure in a fresh, intriguing, and always clear voice.

Brain over Binge is a brave book that will help many by delivering an informed and inspiring message of free will, self-reliance, and self control.

She provides more information about her personal recovery process at her website here.  Note again that her book was published in 2011 and since that time much, much more has been revealed about the brain and genetics.  However, her book offers a powerful perspective on how important and effective a change in behavior can be.

In summary, if you haven't found a way to overcome your bulimia or help your loved one overcome bulimia, take a look at this post here on my blog:  

Many people are hailing Carrie Arnold’s book, Decoding Anorexia: How Breakthroughs in Science Offer Hope for Eating Disorders, Routledge, 2013, as a major contribution to the understanding of eating disorders.

Following are two excerpts from the book's cover.  The first is written by Walter Kaye, MD, Professor of Psychology and Director, University of California, San Diego, Eating Disorder Research and Treatment Program.  To better understand the import of what he has to say about Carrie Arnold's achievement, you can read more about him and his outstanding dedication to his work here.   He writes, 

Carrie Arnold has done an outstanding job of translating complex and difficult research findings into understandable concepts.  This book should be an essential guide for individuals with eating disorders and their families who would like to know more about how brain processes contribute to eating disorder symptoms. 

  

 The second excerpt summarizes what one learns when one reads her book:

Decoding Anorexia is the first and only book to explain anorexia nervosa from a biological point of view.  Its clear, user-friendly descriptions of the genetics and neuroscience behind the disorder are paired with first person descriptions and personal narratives of what biological differences mean to sufferers.  Author Carrie Arnold, a trained scientist, science writer, and past sufferer of anorexia, speaks with clinicians, researchers, parents, other family members, and sufferers about the factors that make one vulnerable to anorexia, the neurochemistry behind the call of starvation, and why it's so hard to leave anorexia behind.  She also addresses how environment is still important and influences behaviors, the characteristics of people at high risk for developing anorexia nervosa, why anorexics find starvation 'rewarding', and why denial is such a salient feature, and how sufferers can overcome it.  

Note for the purposes of what I'm focusing on here: "how sufferers can overcome it."

Jennie Schaefer has written two of the books that are on my shelf:  Life Without Ed: How One Woman Declared Independence from Her Eating Disorder and How You Can Too (2004) and Goodbye Ed, Hello Me: Recover from Your Eating Disorder and Fall in Love with Life (2009).  From the book jacket review, 

Ultimately her two books reveal [again, the changing the behavior theme] that being fully recovered is not just about breaking free from destructive behaviors with food and having a healthy relationship with your body; it also means finding joy and peace in your life."  

I refer to Jennie Schaefer and her groundbreaking books that have helped countless people get on the path to recovery, because Schaefer also maintains a blog and has recently written that she spent quite a bit of time talking with author Marya Hornbacher.  The culmination of that conversation is Schaefer's three fascinating posts detailing what Hornbacher has been thinking since the publication of her first book, Wasted. 

To step back for a moment, Marya Hornbacher first came to everyone’s including my and my family member's attention when she published  Wasted:  A Memoir of Anorexia and Bulimia [1998 by Harper Collins].  The paperback followed shortly after that and arrived in our hands sometime in 2005 when my family member's therapist gave the book to her to read.  It's probably the most candid book I've ever read about eating disorders and yet the book was also hugely educational and helpful to me to try to comprehend the depths of my family member's profound illness that was so much stronger than mine had ever been.    I still highly recommend the book but always provide the caveat that it's not easy reading.

Marya Hornbacher went on to write Madness: A Bipolar Life; another candid memoir that revealed her struggles with the co-moribidity that  interfered with her recovery and her life.  The book includes helpful facts, websites, and contacts regarding the diagnosis of bipolar disorder.

Now, according to the discussion she had with Schaefer, Hornbacher will be considering, among other things, "unsticking" and the importance of changing one’s behavior (one habit) and replacing it with another behavior in order to get into recovery.   Like Arnold, Hornbacher indicates in the interview that she will be spending quite a bit of time researching  material and working with people in order to write this next book.  

I look forward to the publication of her book and in the meantime I refer you to Jennie Schaefer's blog and these three links:
http://www.jennischaefer.com/blog/overcoming-adversity/wasted-full-recovery/
http://www.jennischaefer.com/blog/overcoming-adversity/take-medication-letting-go-mary-hornbacher/
http://www.jennischaefer.com/blog/overcoming-adversity/marya-strategies-unsticking-part-3-3/

Progress re Treatment of Eating Disorders?

[So excited to note here at the top of this post the March Against ED on September 30, 2014 in Washington, DC.  This event has united so many organizations intent on bringing attention to this biologically based illness.  For more information go to this link.   AND, watch the video!! ]

The September 2014 issue of the International Journal of Eating Disorders (Volume 47, Issue 6) arrived in my mailbox yesterday.  As usual, I quickly browsed the contents.  I was so struck by the similarity of themes - meaning much work needs to be done - between the quote I provided in 2010 after attending the NEDA conference, and the Abstract of the first article, "The Therapeutic Process in Psychological Treatments for Eating Disorders: A Systematic Review" by Anne Brauhardt, Martina de Swaan, and Anja Hilbert, especially the Discussion, that I highlighted some of the information in the latter as another lead-in quote to my blog.

Much progress has been made in the understanding of the importance of Family Based Treatment (FBT), of the care and nutrition needs early on in treatment of the person with the eating disorder, of the integral part family dynamics (by family I mean the primary social environment of the person) plays as well as of the role of one's environment and especially of genetics and the understanding of the workings/treatment of the brain.

Yet because eating disorders remain one of the most difficult to treat of all brain based illnesses, so much more work needs to be done and all involved in the field including the organizations supporting the dissemination of information need to work together to help those diagnosed with this range of illnesses.  Currently, I believe there remains too much ignorance as well as an attitude of "this way is better than that way" and the only way the community is going to get around these hurdles is by keeping an open mind as well as staying current with the literature and accepting that perhaps their in many cases limited and self-serving approach is detrimental to helping people get into recovery.

I realize my statements may raise hackles yet I continue to note that the agendas (speakers and their topics) of some sessions still seem to ignore - discount? - what is happening in other areas.  I hope this situation will change.  I have added the blog created by Averil Hart's family to emphasize the importance of knowledge and change in the treatment of eating disorders.

Meanwhile, as I've noted in my header, I will be slowly reorganizing my blog and updating where I can to provide a useful resource for parents, especially parents of adults with eating disorders.  I am encouraged to see lately that more emphasis is being placed on how to treat adults and therefore what might work to help them become motivated to change - a wonderful and important development.

Asking for Help - How About a Recovery Coach?

A year ago last January, I wrote a post titled "Asking for Help" and remarked that before release, every single person with an eating disorder who has been receiving treatment in an eating disorder program ranging from inpatient to residential to outpatient needs to learn how to ask for help before going out on her/his own.  I noted the reasons why I thought so and you can read the entire post here.

Fast forward to yesterday's issue of the Sunday New York Times (July 13, 2014) and included is an article in the Sunday Styles section (p. 1) by Marisa Fox titled, "A Guide's Sobering Effect:  Affluent mothers are hiring coaches to help them stay clean in battling their addictions."  I have provided a link to the article here.  I don't know how long the link will be viable, however.

My first thought was what a great idea!  My next thought was, why can't this service (I would call it a profession) apply to anyone who needs to stay clean (whatever that means) or in my terms get into recovery?  My third question was, how expensive does this need to be?  And my fourth question was, could this service profession be covered by one's health insurance policy?  Of course lots of questions (and answers) could pour forth, but the fact is, a recovery coach skilled in the field of addictions and similar disorders the behavior of which becomes entrenched in brain pathways is needed for all sorts of reasons, including eating disorders, for example bulimia.

Fox refers to these coaches as "sobriety coaches, ....sober companions and recovery therapists.  Her article lists/points out various facts that many of us who have family members or friends recognize easily, especially for those of us, like me, who have a family member whose disease has been ongoing for more than 25 years.  For example, one person in recovery remarked, "....addiction is a disease of isolation.  I would have loved to have someone come over and help me not get drunk."

And, as one of those who utilized a coach noted, "I found it hard to function in the real world in a sober capacity without the protective cocoon of a rehab....It's like reading a book on how to swim, and then jumping into the ocean.  Having a companion with me at all times allowed me to transition, so I didn't drown."  She went on to say, "I had been on chemicals for more than thirty years....It takes a while for the brain to normalize.

Scientific research is revealing the process of recovery from an eating disorder takes a long time, particularly for the brain and particularly for those who have been entrenched for quite awhile.

So, I put this idea out there again with the NYT article as a backdrop.  Within the last year I did contact an agency and arranged, with my family member's consent, for a person to serve somewhat in this capacity but more like a companion than a coach.  My family member ultimately rejected the idea because apparently she is still under the control of her eating disorder and unable to change her behavior(s).

Sometimes, as much as a parent and especially a parent of an adult would like to completely fill the role of getting their family member into recovery, the role needs to belong to some other person who appears more neutral (this idea has been the subject of many writers).

The idea of an actual recovery coach, sober companion and/or recovery therapist takes this a step further and I am certain could be utilized to set up a program for those people who desperately want to get rid of behaviors that are undermining their ability to live a better life. 

"Their Battle for Their Recovery"

The arrival yesterday in my mailbox of Marjie Ruth's latest post could not have been more timely.  As usual, I remind readers here that my posts are directed towards family members and friends of adults with eating disorders.  As a friend of mine has said many times, we can shine a light on the path and on the opportunities yet ultimately the decision, as Carolyn Costin writes, to get on the path to recovery is up to the person with the eating disorder.  I often say I am an ally but, in fact, I am not the warrior.    Here's Marjie's latest post including their meeting information in case a reader is from the Tampa area and wants to take advantage of the meeting offered:

No one can make you get better.

 The battle for recovery is not between you and me.

 It's not between your eating disorder and anyone else.

 The battle you have to fight to get better is inside of you.

 The battle you have to fight is between your healthy self and your eating disordered self. 

~Carolyn Costin

Dear Family & Friends of the Eating Disordered (ffed)

Summertime is upon us and that means that vacation season is now in full swing. So please let me know if you're planning to attend this week's meeting at 7:00 PM on Tuesday (June 3rd) in Tampa at the Hyde Park Counseling Center on Verne Street in Tampa. Everyone is welcome. The ABA 12-step meeting for those battling a disorder will be meeting at the same time, same place. If you need driving directions, go to www.HydeParkCenter.com. All are welcome. The only cost is the time and energy it takes for you to get there!! Trust me: it's well worth that price. 

This week's quote is by Carolyn Costin rings so true because it is penned by a person who speaks from personal experience as she is recovered from a serious eating disorder. Carolyn not only has fought the tough battle and won, but also she has gone on to become a highly credentialed treating professional and opened her own eating disorder treatment program which has now expanded to 8 locations (MonteNido.com). She has also authored eight very well received books, including Your Dieting Daughter and The Eating Disorder Sourcebook.

And why have I chosen this quote which was obviously directed at someone with an eating disorder, as opposed to a caring family member or other loved one? Because I think what Carolyn has said makes a powerful statement to us about where we stand in the battle our loved one is in with an eating disorder. So, from the start, please note that we aren't in a battle with our loved one's ED. We might be having constant wars with our own emotions as we struggle to handle the upset that comes our way because of the presence of the eating disorder in the life of someone we care about. But we are named "No one" in this quote because:

"No one (that's you & me) can make you (your loved one) get better."

Try as we might, it's beyond our power. And any sustained effort we might exert to try to force the issue, is more than likely to back fire and only make things worse. 

"The battle for recovery is not between you and me."

...it only feels that way. The more involved we are in trying to orchestrate their recovery, the more we become the target for their emotional outbursts. Some of it is because of the struggle for control. ED's are all about your loved one's personal struggle to cope with frightening or unsettling emotions. It's all about control, however false that sense of control might be. When we set up an emotional tug-of-war in which nobody wins.

Because the battle that needs to be fought is within the person and against their disorder, our task is to discern where we may have crossed over a healthy line and to figure out how to extricate ourselves from the melee. That usually means discontinuing any enabling actions on our part and disengaging from any co-dependent behaviors. It may not seem like enough, but steps like these go a very long way in helping to clear the way for a more healthy perceptions for all, which is fertile ground for real healing.

Whether you've only recently discovered that your loved one is dealing with an eating disorder or the war is an old one with significant recovery or perhaps it's a relapse that has your world spinning out of control, figuring our just where your place is in the "conflict" is a vital step. Knowing and accepting that you are not the person in any way in charge of, responsible for, in control of, or able to resolve your loved one's ED is a huge step for both you and your loved one. 

And even if you had learned this lesson previously but needed a refresher, this quote is the admonition for you!!

Marjie Ruth

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